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#Selflove-Today is all about YOU...

Happy Valentine's Day if you follow me on Instagram, you will know that I have tried to mix up Valentine's Day this year, so that it is all about Self Love, if you don't then go over and check out my #selflovechallenge and it's not too late to join the #rumiearthselflovechallenge either.


So today (and this blog) is all about YOU. Forget roses and chocolates (or socks for the guys reading this) I want to share with you my top ways of showing yourself some love, as well as this at the very end of this blog, these is a nice slow vinyasa flow, which focuses on the Heart Chakra (chest openers) for you to enjoy and in another bid to show yourself some love today, I have also included my mindfulness video from my last 'Self Love Sunday', and (trying something new with this blog) a VLOG which pairs with this blog, AND there is also 10% off Rumi Earth products for everyone.





What even is Self Love? I will start by telling you what Self Love isn't...

Self Love it not all about spending money on yourself, what is disappointing is that consumerism has turned Self Love into buying yourself something new, or splashing out, you have seen the signs in the shops 'Treat yourself'- which is great, don't get wrong, but there are SO many other things you can do for which do not cost money, and more importantly, SO many other things that we actually need to do on a day to day basis which will help us to love ourselves ALL of the time.


Be kind to yourself...


What we need to begin to do to really show yourself some love is be KIND to yourself, this comes before anything else. When you’re being kind to yourself, you won’t need to splash any cash.


Being kind to yourself starts in your thoughts, and it can take a long time to reprogram your old thought patterns, but just making a start is a step in the right direction.


We ALL have, the ‘I’m not_______________enough’ thoughts, (insert your own negative thought there). We are all guilty of this, we pressure ourselves to be thinner, faster, stronger, leaner, busier, prettier, healthier, the list is endless. We constantly tell ourselves that what we are is not enough, this goes on in our heads every single day.


Let’s play a game and just flip this for a second so it hits home, imagine that your best friend, was saying out loud to you all her/his negative, self shaming thoughts, you would support them, you would flip these beliefs to help to lift them up. You would try and squash their idea that as soon as they reach a size 8, or loose a stone, they’ll be happy, but you seen how sad this 'journey' is making them. Deep down you know they’re perfect in every way, and you will try your hardest to make them see this.

That’s how you should be talking to yourself.


If you’re not happy in your mindset, if you are unkind to yourself in your own thoughts, there is no magic switch when you achieve your target that you will suddenly be happy, happiness comes from within.

Next time you feel these thoughts creeping in, try and reverse it, even if it’s something that can’t happen instantly, you can use some of these which have worked for me, or come up with your own.

Flip...


'I am not_______enough' to 'I am still growing/learning in this area, and when I’m ready I will know'

'I do not deserve'_____________ question this, WHY? And you will find that you can not find a why, or it will take you to an 'I am not____________enough' thought, which you can then flip.


Look in the mirror...


This one you might a bit weird doing at first, but just try it. In very basis terms, mirror work is simply you looking into the mirror and giving yourself a compliment. Doing mirror work is one of the easiest gifts you can give yourself. It takes only a second to say, “Nice hair today,” or “I love you,” or “You can do this” It’s so important to give yourself little positive messages throughout the day, and by looking at yourself in your eyes while you say it, it has a profound effect on your feelings.


The more you use mirrors for complimenting yourself, approving of yourself, and supporting yourself during difficult times, the deeper and more enjoyable your relationship with yourself will become.


If you want to know more about this, check out the work of Louise Hay.


Do something that lights you up...


We all have hobbies, and things that we enjoy to do when we are not doing our day jobs, but sometimes these things can get lost in life, and before you know it those weekly gym sessions turn into monthly, or your plan to have a massage every month happened once. If you make time for the things that YOU enjoy, you are showing yourself love, just like we make time for the people around us, make time for you.


One thing that gets in the way here is the fear of saying 'no', it always happens when you plan to do your one thing this week for you, and you get invited somewhere, and we are all really good friends to our friends, and may say yes, even when we want to say no, so we go, we have a good time, but the time we wanted to spend doing OUR thing has to wait. So make an effort to put your hobbies and interests in your week before others, it might even be that once a week you turn off your phone, take a bath and have an early night, the thought of this might light you up, for others it might be a walk, or a Podcasts, for parents reading this it might be 10 minute to sit and drink your coffee.


Treat yourself, how you treat others- light yourself up!


Celebrate yourself...


This one really helped me a few months ago as I am the WORST at celebrating me, I happily let things go quietly, which is fine, as I am a little introvert, BUT for the other introverts out there, celebrating yourself is so much easier and way less embarrassing.


Ask yourself this question, how many times have you celebrated for someone else? Some people are really happy having party for their, engagement, baby, marriage, birthday, new job, hen do, finishing a course, new shoes etc etc, and if you're not aiming for some if these traditional milestones, then we might go unnoticed (but happily so).


So, how do we celebrate ourselves without all the fuss...


Get a nice fresh page in your journal, or a nice piece of paper, or buy yourself a 'Congratulations' card, and simply write yourself a big fat well done, go back as far as you want, it might even be going back to your GCSEs, or even primary school, things you feel went unnoticed back then, right up to now.


You can use this template, or just go for it and free write...


Dear me, I am so proud of you for... you did amazing. You worked so hard and it paid off, you will be fabulous...

You even did...and you though you would not be able to....

You spent all your time...

Well done for...

Make sure that you...


Have fun with it, and just allow all the feelings of pride and self love fill your bones.

Finally, here are the self love freebies..















And to get discount for you next Yoga purchase head to rumiearth.com and use my discount code YOGIKULA


Happy Self Love day, Magic Always, Joanne xx























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